Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Walk To End Alzheimers. Why WE walk!


This coming Saturday, October 4, 2014 we will participate in The Walk To End Alzheimer's, Yay! We are pretty excited, and although we have managed to raise no money, we are undaunted! This post will be about why we are walking and the family members who shaped our lives by their walk down a very difficult path. Alzheimers disease is a disease that steals the person away, piece by piece, but there was a time when they were vibrant and full of life.

Grandaddy, Memaw and Mom! Such a happy family!

This is how I like to remember my Grandaddy. Here he is with Josh when he was a baby. He was such a sharp dresser! I remember him standing at the front of the church, leading us as we sang songs of praise from the rough brown hymnals.

Josh and Grandaddy
But as the years clicked by, Alzheimers stole him away too..
Grandaddy and Billy Ray
As bad as it sounds, I am glad that my Memaw did not have to see her daughter go through the same struggles that she watched her husband endure.
Mom and my Memaw

But I will say, My Memaw stuck by my Grandaddy till the end, and from her courage I hope to draw my own as I walk this path with Mom.
MeMaw and Grandaddy

Mom was a beautiful child, all blond curls and big eyes. All the pictures I see of her she is smiling. So full of life. It is so hard to believe that the gene that would eventually take the memories of all those happy times was already there, waiting to awaken and steal her away.

Mom in her first car! Look Out!

Mom and her duck, lol

So young!

Love! Sonny, Mom and Scherrie. Grandaddy photobombing in the background!

So pretty!

Yay, Graduation!
Mom went to dances, fancy balls, had dates, loved and was loved back. I remember looking at a frilly red dress and Mom telling me about her wearing it, and how much fun she had at the dance. I wanted to wear it so badly, but I was way to little. Years later I grew into a young lady, and could actually wear the dress. I felt like a princess. Of course there was no dance, just me twirling around my room in my Moms dress. But I will never forget that feeling.
When I was very little, mom made the most beautiful paintings. She had this brown case that had the most interesting things tucked away inside. I remember how wonderful the paints and chalks looked and smelled. Mom was so talented. I also remember sneaking into her room and playing with all those nifty paints and chalks and getting in trouble!
Mom had a hard life at times. She had another child, Billy Ray, who passed in her arms when he was only seventeen. Billy Ray had a small hernia, and during surgery he suffered a loss of oxygen causing severe brain damage due to medical malpractice. This was devastating to Mom, but she stood strong, making sure he had all that he needed and was his voice when he had none. She took such care of him and devoted herself to his care and comfort.She was strong. She was fierce when it was needed.
Mom with Billy one Christmas
Mom went to college, something she remembers to this day. She was smart, So smart! She loved gaming with the the grandkids, and doing crosswords. She loves reading, and has a massive collection of books. So many that they are in every corner of her room, and the rest of the house! 

Mom and a lap full of kiddos! Josh, Katrina and Billy Ray
I have covered many things that Mom was, and I can tell you, there is not enough room in this blog, or time left for me to tell you all the things that she was that the disease has taken from her.
But, I can say, there are so many things that Mom is now. Right now.
Mom is a mother, a friend, a Nana. She has a sense of humor, a sneaky streak and a heart that holds her family close. She loves playing with the great grandbabies, making all sorts of lego creations and drawings. She will sit still and stroke Kaelis hair when she falls asleep on her lap, draw and color for hours. She loves the cats (sometimes) and will slip Brandy bits of her supper no matter how many times we tell her that darn dog will poop in the floor if she eats "people food!) LOL!
Mom in 2012 with Kitty
Mom at Lee and Cayces wedding. Mom, Cayce, Lee, My Dad, and my other Mom.
I am blessed though, as I have my family to help me with Mom. Everyone here works so hard to make sure Mom is happy and healthy. Their love, care and kindness to Mom is without a doubt amazing. Without them I am not sure that I could manage. We may not all be blood related, but we are a family and I love them all as if they were my own. They have no idea how they make my life and Moms much fuller than I could ever imagine. My Pud'nin is also my saving grace. My strength when I have none. I thank God for them all..
Mom at her birthday this year! 70 years young!


This is why we walk on Saturday, for Mom. For the woman she was, the woman that she IS! For all the things that are forever gone. For all the things she has lost, forgotten, and misplaced. For all the ones that suffer with her. Her Dad, Rogers Dad and so many others that have had their lives slowly fade to black.
I know that this post can never even begin to cover the life of my Mom, or any of the others. Nor is it meant to be all inclusive. But I hope that it has at least given you a glimpse into what Alzheimers takes from a person, and from everyone that knows and loves them in their lives. Mom may forget. She may even forget that I am her daughter.  But as long as I am able I will be her memory. I will always be her daughter whether she knows it or not..


*For anyone who wants to support us with a donation for Saturday, here is a link to the Alzheimers.org where you can find our team. (Nanas Minions) Yea, she LOVES Despicable Me, lol  There you can  donate to our team.* Walk to End Alzheimer's

Friday, September 12, 2014

Lee and Cayce's Wedding Day!


After a ton of planning, lots of folding, coloring and choosing the perfect dress,last July Lee and Cayce became man and wife. The ceremony was beautiful, you could clearly see how in love these two are  and I am confident that they are going to be in this for the long haul.
In this post I will give you glimpse into our beautiful day, hopefully without bawling as it is still just so close to my heart. First a bit of a back-story!
Several years ago we went to Wranglers to check on Lee and visit Mom as well. What we didn't know at the time was we would be meeting his future wife as well. They rode up on their horses and Lee introduced us and I remember thinking that she was awfully quiet, which I NOW know was not her true personality, LOL! Thanks goodness as with this rowdy group you have to be able to be loud just to be heard above the roar! So she fits in perfectly.
Before you know it Lee was in trouble for staying up way into the night, talking on the phone with the little quiet girl. And so it began.
As a Mom, watching your child fall in love is bittersweet. As happy as you are for them, there is always that twinge of sadness that they are growing away from you as they grow up. But no matter what, the joy of seeing them happy and following their heart far outweighs any feelings of loss! After all, look at these pictures! They are so young and you can already see that they are in love! ETA: I had to snag some photos from Cayce, which were from her family site. So, the next three are from there and thanks Dave and Angie for always taking a lot of photos! Plus the wedding pictures are from Trish and maybe one from Austin Mathis. I wanted to make sure I covered everyone with proper shout out and credits!
2009! Aren't they cute!

2010, Still little kiddos!
And in 2012

Years went by, and things got serious, lol We grew to love Cayce like one of our own! Not that we didn't have our bumpy moments! We are both really strong women, so of course there was a few times we both wanted to strangle the other one! But I can honestly say, I could not be any happier with the woman that Lee has chosen to walk by his side throughout his life. She is the grounding point that he needs, and I feel he is the centering point for Cayce as well.
So, without further adieu, here are some pictures of the wedding! Ok, a LOT of pictures!

Rehearsal! So sunny!

Getting all beautiful!

Into the dress! So many buttons, lol

Guys getting all gussied up!

Father of the bride

Me and Lee

Just a little lip gloss!

Garter time!
Cayce and her parents Dave and Angie
Roger and I with Lee and Cayce
 In case you are wondering, that IS Rogers happy face..LOL!

Lee and Cayce with her Parents, Dave and Angie


Smooches!

Bud and Judy, Cayces Grandparents.

Lee and Cayce with his grandparents, Jannene Travis, Ben and Janet Myers

Roger and I with all the kiddos

Lee and Cayce with her grandparents, Dot and Doug.

Lee and his guys!

The groom!

The bride
Dad seeing Cayce in her dress
 I actually love this picture of Dave and Cayce. The look on his face says it all. Dave and I were quite the criers, (Sorry Dave), so we spent a lot of time blaming our allergies for the red puffy eyes, lol!

Sweet cake topper

The wedding party!

Cayce and her girls!

The cake, so pretty!
The candle for Lees Dad
Cuties!

Flower girls! Daisy needed a bit of Mom encouragement!

Ring bearer
Walking his baby girl down the aisle

Taking the plunge!

Sealed with a kiss

Mr. and Mrs. Lee Mathis

First dance

Reception table, so pretty!

Dancing girlies!

Round and Round we go!

Cutting the cake!

More smooches!

Father daughter dance!
 I can see Dave's allergies are acting up again!

Mother son dance
Whoops! Are there golden rods in here?? These allergies are making me crazy!!

Parents of the bride. So cute!

Cayces Grandparents. :)

Cayces grandparents on her dads side. :)

Now..Where IS that garter?!

Getting DOWN!!

Whoop whoop!

Megan and Austin

These guys were a dancing bunch!

Dave getting jiggy with it!
The wedding was absolutely amazing! Shout out to Angie, Cayces mom for all her planning and hard work! It really was beautiful!
I hope you enjoyed a little trip down wedding avenue. I know that I had such wonderful day that ended with a new daughter that I love dearly. Plus, an entire branch of family as well! Woot!
I Lee and Cayce the very best that life has to offer and I will leave them with a little advice. Love fiercely, fight fairly and never go to bed angry. It is now you two against the world. As ONE, with God by your side,you can meet any challenge head on and make it through together.
I love you both! Congratulations!!

 ETA: I had to snag some photos from Cayce, which were from her family site. So, the first three are from there.  So thanks Dave and Angie for always taking a lot of photos! Plus the wedding pictures are from Trish (will add last name later) and maybe a couple from Austin Mathis. Cynthia Parrish had the one of the boys as her profile pic and I could not resist! I wanted to make sure I covered everyone with a proper shout out.